Anonymous asked: What do you think about the phrase "if he wants to talk to me, he will"? Is it valid?
It’s some sexist bullshit. As a society, we condition women to be completely passive about dating. Women are always told that they need to wait and let the guy make the first move. That’s silly.
If you are interested in someone and you want to talk to him, call him. Text him. Send him a message of some sort. If you make an attempt to contact someone and they don’t get back to you right away, don’t send another message that same day. This advice goes for ladies and fellas. Wait at least a day before sending another message. If you’ve made two attempts to contact someone and they haven’t responded, then don’t send any more messages. Don’t call anymore. They’re either dead or they don’t want to talk to you, and you have to accept that.
But you don’t have to wait for the guy to call first. Yes, most guys will talk to you if they want to. But some guys are shy. Some guys overthink things. Some guys have been indoctrinated into some kind of “play hard to get” bullshit. Some guys get really distracted by their work or a hobby and they forget that you texted them last, and they just figure they texted you at some point and they’re waiting to hear back. Lame, I know, but it happens. A lot of times when people aren’t texting each other, it’s because both of them are waiting for the other person to send a text. For whatever reason.
There’s a little truth to “if he wants to talk to me, he will” but there should be just as much truth to “if she wants to talk to me, she will.” It shouldn’t be “if she wants to talk to me she’ll wait around hoping I call her.”
Don’t be passive. You like this guy, call him.