Anonymous: So my boyfriend wants me to masturbate in front of him because he thinks it's hot but for some reason I'm too shy/embarrassed and I don't know why! I'm open to anything, I masturbate every once and a while, and I want to fulfill his sexual desires because it turns him on which turns me on. I can't quite pinpoint the reason as to why I can't do it. I really really want to. I feel so disappointed in myself :( Maybe I feel like I'll look ugly or do it wrong while I do it in front of him? help!

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Don't worry, I'm actually embarrassed to do that too. I can do it on my own, but in front of other people???
Here are some things to remember:

• I know its typically a solitary activity, and that it doesn't seem that sexy, but chances are he’ll find it hot. And if he doesn't, he’ll stop it by taking over.
• that said, I would pull the whole ‘fake masturbating for the sake of looking hot’ act. Pretty much, just rub the clit a bit, bite your lips, moan, writhe around, touch the boobs etc. Shit that you don't need to bother with during ACTUAL masturbation, do that stuff. 
• guys have been taught from porn the way a girl jacks off. They dont know how they ACTUALLY do it. When he asks you to masturbate in front of him, he means pornstar masturbate, with a lot of theatrics. 
• lets be honest, if he wanted you to FORREAL masturbate, the way its usually done, you would be finished within minutes and wouldn't even fucking need him. Guys asking a girl to masturbate isn't really about her getting off right then and there, its about him getting aroused by HER arousal and also seeing how its done so that he can reciprocate with his dick. 
• Think of it this way: when masturbating alone, we don't have to worry about looking cute, just what feels good. However, when you are masturbating in FRONT of someone, its for show, not pleasure (I mean, it CAN be, but bare with me). Chances are hes going to see you do it for like, 2 minutes, get sexually frustrated himself, and come at your to finish the job. done deal. 
• please don't be embarrassed you are a beautiful flower
• however, if you are uncomfortable, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO THING. just be forreal with him and suggest the all coveted alternative and I'm sure he’ll go for it
• don't be disappointed in yourself because you don't want to do something ok.