The science of why it works

The guide covers the scientifically-proven behavioral and physiological reasons why men (in particular) derive deeper, more meaningful pleasure from the “journey” of sex rather than the “destination” – contrary to popular wisdom.  He is measurably happier when you focus on his “journey” – stretch it out, make it last, repeat it often – but keep his “destination” rare and elusive.  To quote the guide:
“As a final result, the teased man is spending more time and attention on his woman because his woman is spending more time and attention on teasing him. As you can see, both lovers are spending more time and attention on each other, which builds a closer, stronger relationship, and this is the ultimate benefit of playing erotic teasing games with your lover.”

Yes, he truly wants you to tease and deny him

Truly!  He does!  Do NOT feel bad about leaving him, unfinished, on the brink of climax, over and over again, night after night.  In the heat of the moment, he might beg and plead for you to finish him, but the next day, as that euphoric fire boils his blood, he will thank you for having the wisdom and willpower to say “No.”  Quote:
“…for a couple that is new to erotic teasing, if he’s agreed to teasing and denial, he wants both the tease part and the denial part. One without the other does not work.”

When and how to say “Yes”

Good tease and denial (imho) is totally unpredictable, which means you have to say “Yes” sometimes.  For maximum pleasurable effect, he should never know, until the absolute last second, whether you are going to let him climax or not – every single time.
“Vary the frequency of his orgasms from multiple times a day (yes, even occasionally forcing him to get it up and cum again even when he doesn’t feel like it), all the way up to making him wait a few weeks or more, and everywhere in between…  Keep him guessing and you will both love it.”

Techniques for limiting his masturbation

For this to work, his climax must be entirely in your hands.  Whether you use the “honor system” or a physical chastity device is up to you.  Do what works for you.  The guide gives some great practical suggestions.
“Both methods result in the teased man giving up control and not being able to cum on his own, making him entirely dependent on you to allow him to cum. This creates a very erotic tension and a more powerful tease for him.”

How long is too long?

Some excellent notes here!!  I can’t say it better myself:
“…his orgasms are not just her privilege, but in some respects they are her responsibility as well.

“By the same token, knowing that she would never make him go for a long time without coming removes some of the uncertainty for him and makes his orgasm schedule more predictable. So she may find it necessary to delay him for an extended period of a few weeks or a month at some points just to establish that she ‘can’ if she wants to. Having done that a few times, will remind him that she’s made him wait a long time before, and this in itself will be a good trigger to keep his desperation high, and his arousal intense.

“One way to figure out his limits are to talk about how long he thinks he could go between orgasms. Once you get a time frame let him know that you respect it, but that you may triple this time, if you choose. This usually is much more then what a man expects and will really keep him guessing.”

What about her pleasure?

Teased and denied, a man is actually at his peak attentiveness to a woman’s needs.  As you will discover, this leads to the most intense, pleasurable, and satisfying sex possible – for her!  Like a chivalrous champion wooing his princess, he will do whatever it takes to please her, inside and outside the bedroom.  This is her moment – her best chance for ultimate sexual fulfillment.  Let me speak plainly here, from experience… I started teasing my husband because I saw how happy he was when I held him at the brink of orgasm, without sending him over (i.e., back then, I did it for him).  But now I can’t stop teasing my husband because his freshly-focused raw sexual energy blasts my fucking socks off, every time!  (i.e., now, I do it for ME!)
“During a teasing game, he will be worked up and ready to do almost anything to please you. You should remind him that his focus should be all about you and satisfying your pleasure…  
“This intimacy is very freeing to both partners, she should enjoy telling her man exactly what she wants, and he is free to focus only on her pleasure without being distracted by his own. Remember ‘tease times’ are ‘her’ times, so enjoy them to the fullest because it is all about you!”

Other benefits

The benefits of tease and denial extend far beyond just peak physical pleasure and bedroom bliss.  It strengthens your relationship.  It deepens his vulnerability and thereby his emotional bond to you.  It renews your courtship and rekindles romance – exceptionally wonderful for married couples.
“Remember a tease does not have to be 'sex’ it can be lots of ways that she might arouse him which can be as simple as saying something dirty in his ear to flirting with him in an everyday setting.”

Head games to make teasing more fun and unpredictable

The article gives fantastic suggestions here! – especially for those of you who might feel reluctant or guilty about denying your loved one’s orgasm.  You might feel like a “bad guy” (gal) even though you’re not.  Holdingout1 lists some fun games of chance that take the decision off your shoulders and put it in fate’s hands.  The beauty here is that the heartless randomness and unpredictability of dice, cards, coins, etc. can be highly erotic for both partners!
“…anything from a flip of the coin, which is unpredictable enough, to a dice throw, or a card draw, to decide if today is the day. Regardless of the method you can take the decision out of it and leave it up to chance…
“One popular teasing game uses colored marbles which are drawn out of a pouch. A white marble means he is able to cum, a blue marble means he must wait. The woman will draw a marble each night (without showing him) and will tell him how she would like to be pleasured that night. When she has had enough, she will bring him close to orgasm and then when he is on the edge, she will let him know the color of the marble that she picked. If the marble is white he is allowed to cum but if it’s blue he must wait until tomorrow for his next chance. The frequency of his orgasms is determined by the ratio of white to blue marbles in the pouch. After a marble is picked it is removed so that his odds get better as time goes on.”

In summary – it’s about having fun with someone you adore!

If you’re on the fence about tease & denial, just TRY IT!  Not tomorrow – today!  Keep an open mind, and enjoy the ride!
“Have fun with the times that you and your lover are playing teasing games. Take control and enjoy your sexuality and when you play teasing games let him enjoy it too.”