Do not be afraid to be a bitch

1. Don’t be afraid of your bitchiness. Contrary to what your mother told you, you can be nice with a bit of sass. The bitch will not take over.
2. If you’re feeling snarky think of it as comic relief or the spice that makes a ‘nice’ girl interesting.
3. You don’t have to say it out loud. Give yourself permission to be as bitchy to yourself as you want. As long as no one’s being hurt, mumbling or rolling your eyes out of anyone’s view is OK. “Did you just say Maureen is a whore?” “OH NO! I said she’s such a bore!” Or-
4. Confide your not nice-ness to a trusted confidant, who gets it. Just be really, really careful about email or texts. You never know where they will go next.
5. Most important: Trust yourself to keep healthy limits on your inner vixen. So let the witch out once in a while, it might be good for you.
Whew! Trying not to say ‘bitch’ too much in this post was hard but I had to try because, well, it’s just not nice.