#1) Make Her Feel Valuable
By making her feel positive about herself and her capabilities, you are unconsciously opening her sexual boundaries. Take it upon yourself to make sure she is never insecure about her sexuality. Every time you have sex, be as enthusiastic as possible even if you feel tired or not in the mood. Though you might not think it’s a big deal, to her, the slightest bit of distance seems like rejection.
No one expands their sexual boundaries through insecurity, but rather through confidence. That’s the key to making her feel free. And when she’s free, she’s more open for investigation because she trusts that there will be no judgment. As long as she knows you’re happy, she’ll only want to make you happier.
#2) Encourage Her Fantasies
Everyone has a sexual fantasy, so try and explore hers. One of the best things you can do is to offer her a safe environment for sharing secrets. Start the conversation by telling yours. Talk about your fantasies, and what you’ve always wanted to experiment with in sex. This will not only make her want to please you, but will also inspire her to reflect her own fetishes.
Once she lets the cat out of the bag, not matter how freaky it is, always encourage it. By showing any sign of shock or disgust, she’s only going to close up more. Then, it will be much harder to get her to share anything. Just as much as you want her to be encouraging of yours, you should be encouraging of hers as well.
#3) Bring Home Toys You Can Share
Bringing home toys or sex products might make her uncomfortable if it’s just for her. Start small. Bring home things like flavored lube, edible panties (for you and her), pheromone lotions, or even alcoholic whipped cream. Let a trip to the sex store be a shared experience first, not a one-sided “man wish” for your girlfriend.
She’ll soon realize that sex is more than just about friction, it’s about exploration. It can be fun and exciting, and doesn’t have to be taken too seriously. The more you encourage these sexual awakenings, little by little, the tolerance will increase. The kid stuff won’t be as fun anymore, so the most logical thing would be to upgrade the games.
#4) Work Up The Tension
Play her at her own game. Women love to get their guys worked up before sex. Sometimes they’ll send sexts throughout the day or play a little footsie under the table during dinner. It’s time we start beating them to the punch. One of the greatest ways to work up a woman’s tension is through the act of surprise.
Surprise her at work and offer to take her out to lunch. If she has her own office, bring up some take out and eat together privately during her lunch hour. Create the tension without the sex. Trust me, the intimacy will become insurmountable.
#5) Make Her Remember You
Every time you part ways, make it a habit to leave on a high note. Try whispering “I love you” or “I’ll see you later, babe” in her ear. Make it a “thing” for a while. This trick never fails. It will always be the first thing she thinks about as she reflects about you throughout the day, and it’ll make her smile. From there on out, everything she thinks about will be relating to sex.