Dear Ducky, how do I tell my partner that I have freaky interests?

 My first suggestion...go Nike and just do it. Most people have fantasies and often times everyone is so worried about what the other person will think, they spend all their time wasting time when they could be making time. If being direct ain’t your gig, try storytelling. Role-play. Pretending to be another character can be a great way to ease your significant other into the realm of edgy sex. Maybe you can’t tell your partner you want to be spanked, but perhaps you can pretend to be the Bad Student who has irked their teacher into doling out a well-deserved swatting over the desk. This little bit of distance can give us freedom.