Contrary to popular belief, the desire to be dominated is not reflective of some desire to be beaten or abused in your everyday life, nor does it necessarily symbolize a lack of self-esteem and self-respect. Instead, the fantasy of being dominated (which became popular in mainstream culture thanks to the Fifty Shades of Grey series, although that particular relationship was an extremely inaccurate depiction), is more about being able to lose control in a controlled environment.
This fantasy is extremely popular among women who have the rest of their lives put together, and simply need a break from their exhausting everyday routine – and what better place to take a break than in the bedroom? Being submissive at someone else’s command allows you to indulge without the guilt, because those dirty ideas aren’t yours ­– they’re his. This fantasy can cover a wide range of areas, but as long as they’re consensual and you feel comfortable with them, then there’s really nothing to worry about and no reason to overthink them.