Hi! I recently stumbled upon your blog and thought you might be able to give me some advice. I'm a 20-year old guy, and recently I've been talking to this 21-year old girl on Tinder. She's really nice and we have a lot in common. Now, I'm not exactly the most suave when it comes to dating and talking to girls, but I think I want to meet this girl in person. How do I bring this up to her? Is grabbing coffee ok for a first date? Should I have to pay? Your words advice would be much apreciated :D

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Yes, grabbing coffee is perfectly acceptable for a first date, as it doesn’t come with as much pressure and commitment as a dinner, and also allows for a quick escape if necessary.
A general rule of thumb is that the person asking the other on the date should ALWAYS offer to pay. If you’re asking her for her time and effort to come out and meet you, you should most definitely offer to cover her. It would seem incredibly rude and scrubby of you if you asked for separate checks on a $3 cup of coffee.
You also want to court her, as rare as this sounds in the modern culture where words like “bae” and heart eye emojis are more effective than articulate compliments like “shall I compare thee to a summer’s day.”
So insisting on covering the bill for the first few times you ask her out will make a huge impression. The money will be nothing compared to the gratitude she’ll feel.
There’s no way to ask her out other than to ask her out. Offer a clear day and time, like Saturday at 2 p.m., and discuss with her to find a time to meet if your first suggestion doesn’t work.
Besides that, be yourself! Show her who you are, make an effort to learn who she is, and let the magic happen (or not happen…then just repeat with another match).
Your courting coach,

Ducky