Anonymous asked: Do you have tips on talking to people you match with online if you're someone who actually has anxiety not just pretends to like you do? Its actually hard for us out here, bitch. It doesn't help that most women online are like you and ignore nice guys like me in favor of douchebags.

You are receiving the strongest sideeye and eyeroll on the planet right now dude.

Firstly; just because I do something doesn’t mean it’s easy for me. I have goals (meeting new people, looking for an adult romantic relationship) that in reality have obstacles (talking to new people who have expectations of me as a human/woman looking for a relationship) so I take my meds and coach myself through it. It’s taken years of meds and shrinks and friends and a mother who takes a tough love approach to my mental illnesses (the world doesn’t stop because I’m sick, if I want something I have to suck it up and work for it just like anyone else, it’s a dog eat dog world and if you’re too scared to pursue and ask for what you want you’re going to be left in the dust because of the facts of reality). I spent lots of long days and nights crying and throwing up and shaking and hiding from strangers because of my anxiety and do you know how many romantic partners that got me? None.

Secondly, consider this: you are the douchebag. You come to my blog and attack me under anonymous because of your own preconceived notions of me as a human and a woman, your own anger at the world not just handing you your manic pixie video game playing comic reading quirky but not in a way that makes her ugly dream girl, assume that the guys I meet and know are rude or careless and that I’m stupid enough to accept that behavior just to get compliments, and have the gall to play the “my mental illness is worse than yours” card without actually knowing the struggles I have gone through daily for years. Meanwhile, the (perfectly nice, mature, interesting, civil and funny!) Guys I meet online who don’t use their own mental illnesses to justify anger at the world have good conversations with me, meet up with me, and don’t project their masculinity issues on passing women who are just living their lives. That is more attractive than whining about being a “nice guy” (which shouldn’t be a trigger phrase for every girl I know to sprint to the hills away from the person using it) to women online and expecting a cookie and a medal for it.

Finally- fuck you and the horse you rode in on.