Why does everybody take sex so damn seriously? The
reason I like sex is because it’s fun! And what is the ultimate
expression of having fun? Laughing! Yet, laughing during sex is not
usually taken lightly, nor is it reciprocated.
I
think this is because people get embarrassed if it is pointed out that
they are in an awkward physical situation. When you’re getting down and
dirty, the expression on your face is not really something you can
control. During heightened moments of sexual ecstasy, you may actually
look like you’re in pain, or suffocating or constipated. You’re all
flushed and sweaty and your hair is sticking out every which way.
There’s probably some flesh visible that isn’t normally. But most likely
your partner won’t give a good goddamn if you look funny, cause he/she
is concentrating on how awesome that fee– oh yeah, right there!
But if you let out a little laugh, it could act like a lightswitch being flicked on. Your lover suddenly gets self conscious- was my O face super goofy looking? Did he realize that I didn’t shave my bikini line? When you’re caught up in the moment, these things don’t matter. But laughing seems to cause insecurities to surface.
I’m
here to say: get over it! I’m not laughing at you- I’m laughing with
you! Ladies, you know when some sex position causes a little air to get
up in your pussy, and then you move and your vag makes a fart sound?
Laugh! There is seriously no other option in that situation. If you fall
off the bed? Hilarious! You’re getting your toes licked for the first
time? You’re damn right it fucking tickles! How can you help but to
giggle?
I’ve had lovers get seriously offended
when I laughed in bed. Notably, I was hooking up with a guy I seriously
had the hots for, and the sex was usually really great. He’d already
come, but wanted to go for it again, and he put on a second condom. His
dick was a little softer the second time around, and we didn’t have
lube, so he was having a bit of a hard time getting it in me. I tried to
help, but he wanted to do it himself. Instead of just lying there
awkwardly, waiting, my instinct was to giggle a little. When he slipped
out again, I laughed again.
Sadly, he took
offense to this and got really mad, growling, “Why are you laughing?
This is frustrating!” He pulled off the rubber and declared that he was
going to sleep. I was shocked and a little crushed by his reaction, and
in retrospect I don’t know why I laughed; it just seemed appropriate for
me to do. (For the record, in the morning it was all forgotten and we
had great sex again.)
My best dude friend, Rod,
told me a similar story. His now-girlfriend had been his crush since
third grade. This one time, when they first started hooking up (as
adults, of course), she was giving him a blow job. She looked up
adoringly at his face (something that guys really like to see while
receiving head), and Rod had a moment of feeling like the luckiest man
on earth. There was this beautiful woman that he’d been into his whole
life right between his legs: pure bliss! He was happy, so he laughed.
Which prompted the girl to immediately stop and feel hurt, asking,
“What’s so funny?”
“No, don’t stop, I’m happy, baby!”
So, to sum it up:SEX=FUN=HAPPY=LAUGHING=OK!
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